Small surprises - Varying Senstivities

I always feel that we define ourselves through our relationships. What goes around comes around. The way i was brought up was to think more about the other in a relationship whether its with a friend, with a pet or cousin. I think i observed that in all that my parents and family did - to think/ feel more about "the other" in a relationship. No doubt that helped me nurture the most amazing friendships and connections that i cherish today.  

Here is an anecdote that surprised me. In the maddening maze of things we become so self centered nevertheless it reveals sensitivities. There are two friends who go to watch a movie. One of the friends receives a call that the fish, the only pet he had, had jumped out of the fish bowl and died. He felt sad and on the behest of his accompanying friend went to check out purchasing another fish even before reaching home and checking on his dead pet. It so happened that they could not purchase another fish and on returning home the supposedly dead fish survived.

Its different and cannot be treated like a  “quick fix” just like i replace a light bulb." People replace pets after the fact here jumping the gun was surprising.

Nobody actually thought about the poor fish or the relationship with it, a living creature dependent just on you for its existence. Its matter of sensitivities. In larger scheme of things we might be as inconsequential as this fish do we want to be treated like this one?