Recently I came across situations where one finds two people indulging in altercations, playing the blame game and ruining relationships. The altercations are nothing more but effects of something deeper. I feel one often comments or reacts to the effects. There are behavior patterns that repeat and one finds great romances, great friendships ruined in matter of few such instances.
I believe getting deeper to understanding the root cause is what moves us closer to understanding the situation and aspire towards some kind of a positive solution if one wishes to resurrect the relationship otherwise it’s a vicious circle.
A second important thing i realized that its critical to assess ones own contribution to that situation because what we can change most definitely about the situation is by changing ones self. By convincing the other or making them understand their contribution to the situation might make a difference or bring about little change because the dependency is still on the other. It also depends on variables such as the intention and make up of the other person.
If we want to grow and take a learning from the incident then analysing our own role in the cause of the disparaged effect and improving upon it is key to growing positively out of a negative situation.
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