Silly assumptions complex Life

A small example when we are young we get marked or graded on different subjects Maths, English, Science and so on. We cannot ascribe the marks scored in one subject to the other. One can be brilliant in Maths but an average performer in fine arts and so on. It is all a matter of interest or aptitude or both.

Why do we get confused in Life then?

IF someone passes out of an ivy league college, is brilliant in studies it is assumed  he/ she would be an ace in social conduct – we feel its “natural” to  expect him/ her to be an ace son, boyfriend, husband or father. One need not follow the other. Being good in academics and being successful in life are two different things. Being successful in Life needs much more than sheer academics which is only one of the ingredients. Academics, Career, Relationships, social conduct all are different subjects.

Accolades received in each qualify only for that respective category and cannot be assumed to give credit to other. IF I am a topper in Maths and therefore I am expected to be excellent in English is unfair.

Somewhere we need to set our expectations more fairly. Often we castigate people for being brilliant in their area of interest/ subject by expecting them to be as brilliant in Life over all. Also at times we give them undue credit of being successful in life by the virtue of their academic qualifications.

Need to have more balanced, holistic approach before setting expectations or assessing people.

My top 10 Quotable quotes

- People wrapped up in themselves make small packages - Ben Franklin
- Actions speak louder than words.
- Example is the best sermon.
- Nobody minds having something too good for them
- ' Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all - Alfred Tennyson
- No one can make you feel inferior without your consent
- Money costs many things - Emerson
- You must know when to leave a place even if you do not know where to go
- The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what we want most for what we want at the moment.
- Worry is like a rocking chair--it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere.

* all the un ascribed quotes are by anonymous writers which i did not bother to note down at times.

Meeting Donald Trump in "THINK BIG"

 More than often one comes across self proclaimed “geeks”, “geniuses” watching them closely one is not very impressed. Only their circle of friends and they themselves think the way they do. Others, well they have a different story on how these set of people look or behave or are.

Books are one's best friends. Reading helps one connect to another’s perspective. The biggest blessing is one can always turn pages and re read. Something one cannot do even while talking to a person. One really cannot rewind conversations.

The one I just finished is “Think Big” by Donald Trump & Bill Zanker. I have read quite a few books in such league but this one is most impressive. The guy has put across the right stuff the right way. The audience is everyone with or without ivy league college degrees and subject is how to make it BIG in business and life. It is for the 2% aspiring to reach the top. Also because it comes from horse’s mouth so you know he’s been there done that the advice is genuine and not a feel factor. The book is for people who are perfectionists and want to scale to the optimum. Trump puts in a structured way the various other qualities other than degrees and brains as pre requisites to making it big.  One comes across quite a few people passing out of ivy league colleges but not making it as big as they could have. Its sad to see people dole out their gold brains at the price of silver and be happy about it. The difference is their inability to think BIG. Nothing wrong with it but to those who do want to make it BIG with or without the degrees some phenomenal qualities make them grasp the moon. Not all stars shinning there followed the clichéd ivy league college education and having great brains route. They are normal people with average brains but extraordinary persistence, hard work, positive attitude and a passionate dream.Donald crisply outlines what are the ingredients that makes a success story. Do read this book if you get a chance.