Pain an integral part of living

This is my point of view and based on my own experience and feeling. The earlier one learns to accept pain as we do happiness the better. Its like two sides of the coin of Life. From childhood our brains and hearts are hardwired  with dreams about being "forever happy". As one grows old one continues aspiring for this “forever happy” state.

We try and avoid anything that we foresee would give us pain whether its developing relationships beyond a point or evolving a lifestyle where we do not have any restrictions or replacing anything or everything that threatens this state of conceptual happiness. Consequently we maintain/ manipulate everything around our ecosystem that would not disturb our “state of happiness”. We seem so scared of pain.

We see examples of people who follow this philosophy all the time but are they happy?  They should be logically most happy but NO they are not they are still yearning to be happy. They lead half fulfilled lives.

 Life is a clever dame it pays you back exactly in the same coin. If you measure your inputs then you receive measured returns. The more wholesomely you live the wholesomely life pays you back. Pain is the price one might have to pay if one loves truly and lives life wholesomely. Its better to undergo pain and accept it as part of life early because then one begins to learn to handle it. Once we are not afraid of pain then we are not afraid of living intensely and in depth in all spheres which leads to a fulfilled state. "यह आग का दरिया है डूब के निकलना है "

Celebrating Death of Ravan

Congratulations and Celebrations !!!!The inevitable happens again and again, victory of Good over Evil. As we celebrate the death of Ravan lets not forget to pick up the lessons for this is just death of the symbol, the manifestations and the seeds he has sown of the bitter fruit which will ripen in future will affect posterity. These lessons will empower us to bring such Ravans to book faster than we did this one which gives them less time to propogate their schools of thought and action.

Ravan was a super hero fighting a super power defeated because of dastardly intent but one needs to understand what constituted his heroism and assess him in an objective light. There were of course the qualities of relentless dedication to purpose, single minded resolve, courage of his convictions and an uncanny knack of strategizing his existence in the face of death that lurked around him for such a long time.

Just imagine if such Ravans were used to set up a committee and asked to make strategies to unravel more like them or our corrupt politicians they would perform much better than our regular teams. We do not have dearth of intelligence or strategists but these people have the experience of living those strategies from the other side of the table plus they are live examples of how the enemy’s mind works in a negative strain. This would be the shortest and easiest way to leverage their negative energies and convert them for positive intent I think.

Missing the doughnut for the hole

Recently I came across situations where one finds two people indulging in altercations, playing the blame game and ruining relationships. The altercations are nothing more but effects of something deeper. I feel one often comments or reacts to the effects. There are behavior patterns that repeat and one finds great romances, great friendships ruined in matter of few such instances.

I believe getting deeper to understanding the root cause is what moves us closer to understanding the situation and aspire towards some kind of a positive solution if one wishes to resurrect the relationship otherwise it’s a  vicious circle.

A second important thing i realized that its critical to assess ones own contribution to that situation because what we can change most definitely about the situation is by changing ones self. By convincing the other or making them understand their contribution to the situation might make a difference or bring about little change because the dependency is still on the other. It also depends on variables such as the intention and make up of the other person.

If we want to grow and take a learning from the incident then analysing our own role in the cause of the disparaged effect and improving upon it is key to growing positively out of a negative situation.