Living in a bubble

Observing people, understanding patterns in their lives, watching how they treat themselves and others, gives fair insights into the working of the other person's mind (i assume) and some times the experience is not a happy one.

Some of the achievers i observe, have achieved commendable growth in their profession, have scaled heights they themselves would not have fanthomed but are so confused and messed up in personal lives. The brightness and manipulation that makes them a success in career seems to have played adversely for them in their personal lives. I had read somewhere that if one knows how to sell well one also gets sold easily. One who manipulates well also has tendency to get manipulated. They lose the sense of what lies in the domain of integrity and where they crossed the line because manipulating their way they get so mixed up in realities that they lose touch with the real truth. Somewhere these people get convinced that they would be able to negotiate with LIFE but life the task master it is, gives no free lunches.

It is sad to see many such bright achievers being manipulated by their own thoughts, the artificial realities they wrap themselves up in and the fabric of their  day to day life is "sad" best described. Their enemy lies within themselves because they guard themselves well from the outside enemies, as most of them, as a given, do not trust easily.

Sometimes i feel achieving more than one imagines makes them lose sense of reality, they get easily gulled by people who massage their egos, and have little tolerance to ambiguity. Most cases i observe, such people prefer being surrounded by people lesser than themselves or those who show them that they are "like minded". Manipulation works best between two like minded individuals, one is often on the guard with someone with different or opposite view point.

Just observations.......

J Krishnamurti - Out of this awareness there comes a clarity that is not induced

Out of this awareness there comes a clarity that is not induced Posted: If you sit on the bank of a river after a storm, you see the stream going by, carrying a great deal of debris. Similarly, you have to watch the movement of yourself- following every thought, every feeling, every intention, every motive-just watch it. That watching is also listening; it is being aware with your eyes, with your ears, with your insight, of all the values that human beings have created, and by which you are conditioned, and it is only this state of total awareness that will end all seeking. Please do listen to this. Most of us think that awareness is a mysterious something to be practiced, and that we should get together day after day to talk about awareness. Now, you don't come to awareness that way at all. But if you are aware of outward things, the curve of a road, the shape of a tree, the color of another's dress, the outline of the mountains against a blue sky, the delicacy of a flower, the pain on the face of a passerby, the ignorance, the envy, the jealousy of others, the beauty of the earth, then, seeing all these outward things without condemnation, without choice, you can ride on the tide of inner awareness. Then you will become aware of your own reactions, of your own pettiness, of your own jealousies. From the outward awareness you come to the inward, but if you are not aware of the outer you cannot possibly come to the inner. When there is inward awareness of every activity of your mind and your body, when you are aware of your thoughts, of your feelings, both secret and open, conscious and unconscious, then out of this awareness there comes a clarity that is not induced, not put together by the mind. And without that clarity you may do what you will, you may search the heavens and the earth and the deeps, but you will never find out what is true. - Krishnamurti, Collected Works, Vol. XV,242,Choiceless Awareness

Happy New Year 2015 !

Well, there goes another year, since quite a few years now I am speculating getting a 5 year calendar printed. Each year is just flying past looking back, the last year….

It was a year laced with academic endeavor and success, new connections and letting go of Nani on her journey forward. It was a year of endings and new beginnings. A year full of struggle and sweat followed with accolades and recognition.

Though I could feel him all around me all the time the only regret is I could not meet my mentor in person last year. His blessings were bearing fruit all the time J

Starting this year with a realization that everything is connected, what we do at work is connected to how we behave at home, is connected to how we play, is connected to the friends we have. The only thing common and that matters in all of this is the sincerity and honesty and one cannot be selectively sincere or honest. If one does then one must realize one is manipulating one’s self. To me being honest to one’s self is shortest cut to fit mental health, using manipulation cautiously as a tool limiting it only to save face in situations and not impinge one’s own interest or will makes sense. One has to realize that EVERYTHING is connected, and truth, no matter what one does, floats to the top “yeh duniya hai yeh saab janti hai.”

Happy New Year ! Lets try to stay as honest and truthful to ourselves because all of us deserve nothing less.