You all receive selected forwards from me from the J Krishnamurti daily quotes, pasting below something that is worth cherishing - it sums up so well and is crystal clear.
Love is not a thing of the mind, is it? Love is not merely the sexual act, is it? Love is something which the mind can not possibly conceive. Love is something which cannot be formulated. And without love, you become related; without love, you marry. Then, in that marriage, you "adjust yourselves" to each other. Lovely phrase! You adjust yourselves to each other, which is again an intellectual process, is it not? . . . This adjustment is obviously a mental process. All adjustments are. But, surely, love is incapable of adjustment. You know, sirs, don't you, that if you love another, there is no "adjustment." There is only complete fusion. Only when there is no love do we begin to adjust. And this adjustment is called marriage. Hence, marriage fails, because it is the very source of conflict, a battle between two people. It is an extraordinarily complex problem, like all problems, but more so because the appetites, the urges, are so strong. So, a mind which is merely adjusting itself can never be chaste. A mind which is seeking happiness through sex can never be chaste. Though you may momentarily have, in that act, self-abnegation, self-forgetfulness, the very pursuit of that happiness, which is of the mind, makes the mind unchaste. Chastity comes into being only where there is love. - J. Krishnamurti, The Book of Life
2 comments:
This article is really about one of the essential aspectsof life the discussion on or analysis of which most of us try to avoid , ignore , dispell , escape . This is because just on the mention of Love ( or its admission by one) the immediate and first occurance in the mind is fear of misjudgement of the one you love of our position of weakness and thus smart exploitation, ridicule , rejection . Though all these are mind aspects but are not and cannot be separated in the process . Yes rightly said in the trailing mail that Love is not merely tha sexual act . This act only takes shortcuts the above fears and creats a platform for evaluation of extents of compatibility and reciprocations but yet not guarantess anything . This is really an unfortunate situation where we wish to experience the best thing in this universe "Love" yet we use our brains on this topic.
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Bhuvan
Dear bhaiya
I think there are two discussions here one about love the other about replacing or immediate gratification through sex which the speaker mentions is an act of "self-abnegation, self-forgetfulness, the very pursuit of that happiness, which is of the mind, makes the mind unchaste."
So sex is related to mind. When our mind wants to fulfill the space of love with sex that is where the author says that sex is not the solution as that leads to a state of happiness of the mind which is momentary and unchaste.I would suggest you read the next write up i posted maybe that will make it more clear.
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